Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Goodbye is a Gift



Sometimes goodbye is the hardest thing. Sometimes it physically hurts so incredibly much that you truly feel your heart might break. It doesn’t matter who it is that leaves or that you leave…a friend, a lover, a family member…goodbyes, in my experience, are never easy. There is always a loss to some degree.

I heard it said the other day…”Goodbye is a gift.” It’s an interesting way to think about it as I had never thought of it in exactly those terms before. I’ve always thought everything happens for a reason and that people come into our lives for a reason and sometimes only for a “season.” But when I thought about it…”goodbye is a gift”…I realized how true that is. Every time I’ve said goodbye it has been a gift, an opportunity to learn and to grow.

Not everyone we have relationships with is meant to stay in our lives and on our journeys for the long haul. Saying goodbye is the best gift someone could give you or that you could give yourself. Goodbye allows us to learn whatever it is we were supposed to learn and then allow ourselves to be open to new beginnings with other people who are better suited to us where we are now.

In the last year I have learned a lot about relationships. I’ve learned a lot about saying goodbye and mostly, I’ve learned that goodbye is not negative, it’s necessary. Goodbye keeps me moving in the right direction. Every goodbye brings me closer to the person I am supposed to be. If we can see the gift in every goodbye it makes us less resistant to the letting go and moving on. As we hold on to a relationship that has run its course, we delay the gift only found in moving on.

Goodbye is a gift that brings new opportunity.

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